Think quick- it’s Saturday night so what are you doing?
Me, I’m probably sitting at home binge watching a TV show/movie/Youtube. I could argue that I spend approximately 50 percent of my Saturdays at work and that I just want to relax at the end of a 10 hour day. But what about the other 50 percent?
I could also argue that few of my friends actually live in town (because they all decided to abandon me for greener pastures). But honestly, there has only ever been a 12 month period where I was busy most weekends with social events (maybe that was because we were relatively studious in uni). And I’m sure that if I asked someone from work then they would accompany me to the cinema, so that’s not really a valid excuse.
A good friend recently told me that I need to make more of an effort to make some new friends. Yes, but that would require me to leave my comfort zone. And right now, my comfort zone extends from my lounge chair to my bed and includes the kitchen. And generally involves stretchy clothes. You just cannot go out to meet new people when all you wear is gym clothes.
Now, I don’t want to fall back to the stereotype, but it is difficult for us introverts. We are the people who will leave a party early rather than make conversation with a stranger. We will go to the cinema by ourselves rather than ask a colleague/associate. We will often sit in silence, content with our own company.
And this is our conundrum. We do and we don’t want to meet new people, including boyfriends/girlfriends. It’s a big thing for us to message a man first and then when he doesn’t reply immediately we feel completely rejected. And asking a guy out, forget it! Countless times I have thought about messaging that special guy but have deleted the message halfway through. Of course, things like self confidence and past experiences also shape us and a lot of the time we just want to spend Saturday night at home with a good book or film.
We have to be bold, to step outside of the comfort zone. Or how else will we find the man/woman of our dreams. It won’t be easy, I know that. But with a little effort now then maybe I will be back on that lounge chair in a few short years, remote in one hand and my boyfriend’s hand in the other. To some that may sound like a boring Saturday night, but to me it sounds perfect.